It's easy to let our ego take over, blocking out the people that care for us, but with a little guidance, we can learn to recognise it, overcome it and create relationships that are mutually beneficial. Kelly refers to 'healthy mirrors', finding those people who reflect our best side back to us. Surrounding ourself with these people can be vital to development no matter where we are in life.

Lester

It's funny how that ego that I just want even blocks out and almost abuses the people that are actually caring for you as well.

Kelly

You can't see it though can you?

Lester

No. You can't see it till you see it I think.

Kelly

Yeah it's true and I think it would have probably taken a lot longer had I not stuck close to my program and stuck close to the people that support me. The people that have had those experiences, been through the same sort of thing and that are you know very grounded in their own lives in recovery that I stick close to and speak to because you're right sometimes I can't see it. I say it all the time the healthy mirrors, healthy mirrors because without them I really would be screwed.

Lester

But again it's like always like this is that love is forgiving and if you're really not giving you're really not loving. This whole program becomes about that ultra realism, it's about what do I contribute to the world and being able to see where you know that I do have a responsibility to people.

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